The financial crisis we have been going through has been a lot of things for a lot of people. For some of my friends it has really been hitting close to home. I just got off of the phone with one friend who hasn’t worked in a year due to health issues. She had lyme disease and it wasn’t diagnosed for a year. Couple that with new heart issues and nerve damage all stemming from this, financially, she is not hurting, but it just has to stretch a long way. Dollars aren’t made of rubber. Only checks that bounce.
To make things worse, her husbands department at work may be closing.
When it rains, it pours.
She has been crying on me for the last hour. I am writing this while I talk to her and at least she is laughing some. After all, laughter through tears is the best medicine.
What can you say? Not a whole lot, but you can show major support. Consoling words. Listening to tears. Telling them to breath. Reassuring them that it will be ok. That life, nor God hates them or has it out for them.
Luckily for them, they don’t have children yet. Boy, that would take it from DEFCON 1 to something way beyond.
I really had no idea what else to tell her, other than I have been there. My husband was laid off when we had a 6 month old. I can’t say it was awful. He kept his nose to the grindstone and was able to make a lateral career move.
Still, how do you get them through it? How do you tell your friend not to over-dramatize it? Not to worry? Not to think the worst? Reassure them and tell them that this is only temporary.
You can tell them. But will they believe it?
They don’t. It sucks.