I’m a little late posting this weeks “What I’ve Learned.” Sorry, y’all. I have been so super busy and running from here to there and back again for the end of school with my son, various high school graduations, and life events that I lost track of my days. So what have I learned this week:
1. I don’t have enough confidence in myself.
That’s a tough thing, not having belief that you can do something. The way I see it, if we believe in anything it should be the person we have to look at every single day in the mirror. Insecurities, fear, anxiety, self-doubt, and so many other descriptive words get in the way. What ever they are, just know that we are all standing on the edge of the diving board and we have two choices: climb down or dive in.
I’m choosing to dive in headfirst, even if I am afraid of falling headfirst.
2. Take chances.
I pitched the editor a traditional piece of writing and was accepted. He’s also terrifying and a traditional newsman who has been in the newsroom for his entire career. It’s small, with low pay. But it’s a byline on a topic I’m desperate to write more about. That’s all I’m giving away until publication date.
Had I not piqued his interest by walking up to him and cold pitching him to get his business card, he would never have given me his business card. Had I not come home straight away and emailed him, I would not have an offer sitting in my email. But I took the chance and had I not taken it, I would still be sitting here wishing for it.
For things to happen, you have to take chances and put yourself out there. I’ve been saying I was going to take that chance since I was 15. Don’t wait 27 years like I did.
3. Mentors are key.
I have a few amazing mentors who are the cheerleaders we all need in life. It is important to identify where you need those mentors and seek them out, because they aren’t going to come to you.
Mine have talked me off the ledge before my largest speaking engagement to date, encouraged me to find my inner voice, and let me know I can do anything I set my mind to. They are also good at not blowing smoke up my patootie, keeping it real, and being gentle when needed.
Don’t rush and ask the first person you meet to be your mentor. Take your time and if you feel it is the right person, ask them. They may say no, because you don’t know how many other people they are mentoring.
4. Foster your creativity. I can’t say when I stopped fostering my own creativity, but I let my proverbial well run dry. Recovery is slow and the water is starting to trickle back in, but I am taking extra time to care for me.
Why is fostering your creativity so important? I think I’ll Sir Ken Robinson explain.
5. Cut out the extra noise. I’m spending less time on places that suck me dry, like Facebook, and a lot more time doing other things and am so much happier for having done so.
So many people thrive and become alive when they are around others. I can only be around a bunch of people for a short amount of time and then I am seeking solitude. For years, I thought I was an extrovert. If you know me personally, you are questioning everything about that sentence, but it is true. I didn’t realize being happier sitting in my corner, sipping my sparkling water in a club, observing people and not interacting, was my grand way of taking part in events.
All of this is so important and meant to make us think, feel and go deep into ourselves.
What did you learn this week?