We are all afraid of something and compelled to act out of fear, a negative emotion, which forces our body through a myriad of changes. Fear gives us important information which can keep us safe and healthy. It can also cause negative side effects, such as sweating, heart racing, increased blood pressure, upset stomach, adrenaline rush, etc.
As much as my Type-A, anal-retentive, perfectionist self HATES writing this, I screwed up and caused myself huge issues due to fear. At some point in time, we screw things up. It’s not a fun feeling, in fact, it sucks. We all screw up. And when it gets to that point, we have to make difficult phone calls.
My screw up didn’t hurt anyone, didn’t cause emotional pain, nada. It was purely business related. But still, I had to be a professional and make amends for something the person on the other end of the phone call didn’t even know about. Going in to it, I was nervous, because I just don’t mess up. That’s not how it works on this end.
So, I made that call. And while it sucked as I explained what happened, the outcome was much better than I had expected.
What’s the lesson in this?
Part of life is about learning coping skills to deal with situations you’re placed in, whether you put yourself there, or you’re there strictly by coincidence. And it’s a process that changes and grows with us our entire life. Some never learn these skills. (And I’m admittedly late in life learning them.)
What I’ve learned, and am continually learning, is to accept fear. When I invite fear in to my home, it’s a warm welcome. One filled with love. I want my fear to know that it’s okay to be here. I’m not here to shame or judge it. I am here to soothe it with loving acceptance. Once I’ve done that, fear doesn’t cling as tightly, and we both breathe easier.